Bonjour Finesse 
Everyone from children we heard Mom and Dad told us not to swear.
All parents tell their children not to swear, are careful not to feel at home, on television, at school. Each
as unable to control the situation.
Then something changes ...
Because when you're a kid is considered a bad swearing and then even "ugly is beautiful", to use no more vulgar exclamations?
E 'obvious to say that all the bad words is not a correct thing.
Often HaR'à Yetzer, covered by companies, partners, habit, tells us instead that it is a beautiful thing.
There are several areas in which it makes sense to stop (or rather not start) to use foul language, some more popular than others. Surely not to mention all the reasons, but we can consider a few: a.
E ' logically bad swearing . Usually the behavior that every parent wants the child when a child is closer to fairness. Just because the child is pure, every parent wants to try to keep it healthy for as long as possible in this way. Not much to argue on this point.
b. What's behind the word? If a person put a minute to think about what exactly that word, hardly repeat, at least in shame. We often talk about that many words, even knowing the meaning, it means another. Why not use the words in their true meaning?
c. But what I miss? may also be correct that is an intrinsic evil to swear that I'm actually soiling my mouth saying things that if I speak for a moment I'm ashamed of saying that. But much that we lose?
We lost many things, some logical, reported by other sources, while at first these days maybe we can talk more often because the figure of the "good guy" is considered "obsolete" as a minimum, on the second there much to say - are guaranteed by the Talmud. We have half a facade of Talmud at least on 'עון של נבלות פה' avon shel Navlut Peh that is the sin of "dirty mouth" with words concepts and a poor candidate. Do not carry anything that says the Gemara, but I mention only one element, "says Rabbi Chanan Bar Abba ... everyone dirty his mouth" even if he was a sealed גזר דין Ghez Din ~ Findings 70 years of good things, they become evil, "chas veshalom.
Preach? No thanks!
Now veshalom chas, nobody is going to "do the sermon," has never been the purpose of any blog post, let alone to make a "policy of terror," which in the field of Jewish sages ז"ל true that the approval, although often the E ' BEEN GOOD TO OTHERS, sometimes in good faith, but mainly due to the comparison with the policies of the kind used by other entities unrelated to the Jewish ones.
If we see a child who puts his fingers into the electrical outlet does not stop him, perhaps? But the child does not see anything wrong! Indeed, it is fun. A person who does not stop it can be considered as a minimum irresponsible, if not almost a murderess. Why? Why put your fingers into the electrical outlet can be extremely dangerous.
As there are physical risks, there are risks, too spiritual. Only that there are some differences between the first and second: The first
are often seen immediately, with the eyes "physical". The latter can only be seen with eyes "spiritual", which should in time gain Be "H. So in some cases may be, at least for those who have not yet acquired this kind of view" disproportionate ".
But things did not so. Let us return to physical hazards. Even these are not always seen, but often depend on the knowledge! Seeing an electrical outlet, it seems harmless, perhaps even inviting (at least for a child) as a place to put your fingers. Besides, who "knows" that the jack is behind the current, and that it is difficult to understand the dangerous consequences of things.
Nobody in their right mind would say that is not "proportional" the consequence of putting your fingers into the socket with the action. Why? Because everyone knows that is a direct consequence - there are laws of nature against which we can not go.
clear and correct. What is often in danger - chas veshalom - to forget those who laid down the laws of Nature: הקדוש ברוך הוא HaQadosh Barukh Hu ~ The Holy One, blessed be He . And how did you set the laws of physical nature so there are laws of spiritual nature.
Just as electricity can not see it except through particular ways (for example, attacking the switch an electrical appliance, first of all, the light bulb) and the only way to know that there is no study to prove himself. The consequences of the actions spiritually work the same way: you can not see them directly, unless a person has no special tools, such as the Ruach HaQodesh [without commenting in detail is perhaps possible to explain in a few words as the link " Hotlines HaQadosh Barukh Hu] or similar. In other cases you need to learn it ... Why did the sages we ז"ל also reveal the laws of spiritual nature.
These laws have a special feature of the spiritual nature - are a means to better understand the scale of things, designated directly from the Creator on a principle of Middàh Keneghed Middàh. The principle of Middàh Keneghed Middàh is usually translated as the principle of retaliation. The general principle is to ensure that the things around me to behave in a manner similar to mine, so give me a chance to understand the magnitude of my actions, whether good or better. If then analyzes the spiritual consequences of my actions I can understand what degree. But we try to better understand this important concept through the explanation of the result of נבלות פה " Navlut Peh " ~ " dirty mouth." Then come back
to the point ...
We have seen that the Gemara (Shabbat daf 33 'Amud Alef) says, "says Rabbi Chanan Bar Abba ... everyone dirty his mouth" even if he was a sealed גזר דין Ghez Din ~ of Findings 70 years of good things, they become evil, "chas veshalom. We need to understand - that we here reasoning behind it?
a. There is no mention of a גזר דין Ghez Din ~ Findings at stake, but one that already decreed.
b. It is 70 years, so what may be the entire life of a person, as we learn from the book of Tehillim.
c. We have a transformation into the evil Ghez Din positive.
How could never be proportional?
Now we try to understand. Just like humans animals also have a נפש Nefesh, basic level of the soul. The main characteristic that distinguishes man from animals is the spiritual level, characterized by נשמה Neshama. The Neshama is a level of soul that allows us to make speeches and concepts. Animals may make a שיחה Sichàh ~ a chat, but they are not able to formulate new concepts and express them. So the main characteristic of man is the Neshama, which is the ability to speak effectively.
Now let's consider what use can have this incredible tool: words. If we also think the only development of civilization there amazed.
Now we can understand that this instrument may have a higher purpose. To be used to lift and do good to man himself and all mankind!
If we use this incredible tool (to speak) on the end opposite to that for which it was created what are we doing?
simply throw away all the good life and make it into bad.
is now clear why there is much more burdensome as a consequence of our action (so to speak, saying inappropriate words). Because this is the inherent meaning of the action.
In practice ...
After realizing how important it is to be careful how you use your language, you must understand that it is easy to change immediately.
In particular, people used to use a dirty word as interlayer, has difficulty in changing.
E 'should do it, but gradually.
One step at a time.
The first to do is to realize of the situation and begin to understand what are the terms for removal.
The second alternative is to look for terms that do not have a meaning so bad, if they have an association phonetics is often more simple.
Some examples: "cabbage", "wow," "body of a whale," "a thousand bombs and the like.
Some important notes in brief
important to note that you should avoid words that begin with "FOR ..." usually remember the names of forms of idolatry, which are prohibited to be appointed.
HQB also important to know that "H is not intended to punish, but to to educate. So if a person still can not get used right away is a problem, but to a certain point. E 'FORBIDDEN TO guilt. It is not a Jewish thing. AND 'negative self-defeating. It 's a technique Yetzer HAR'A!
